“The Happiest Women “Words of Wisdom”

“Showing gratitude to Allah protects one from His wrath only by optimists.”

If winter has closed the doors of your house and mountains of snow have besieged you in all directions. Then look forward  to the coming of spring and open our windows to a breath of fresh air.  Look far ahead and see the flocks of birds starting to sing again.  You will see the sun shining its golden rays on the branches to give you a new life, a new dream and a new heart.  Do not travel to the desert looking for beautiful trees, for you will never find there any thing but loneliness.  Look at the hundreds of trees that offer you shade  and fruits and the delightful singing of birds sheltering in them.
Do not try to look at what happened yesterday and what you lost, for in life, when a leaf falls it will never come back , but with each new spring new leaves will grow.  Look at the canopy of leaves between you and the sky, and forget about the leaves that have fallen to the ground and have becomes part of he earth.
Since the past is past, you have today ahead of you , and if today is going to gather its leaves and depart, then you have tomorrow.  Do not grieve for yesterday, for it will never return. Do not regret today, for it is leaving.  Dream, instead, about the shining sun in beautiful tomorrow.
“It is impossible to imagine the scope of disease caused by
exchanging hurtful words.”

Avoiding Arguments

Rasul’Allah (sall’Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Whoever does not argue when he is in the wrong will have a home built for him on the edge of Paradise. Whoever avoids it when he in the right will have a home built for him in the middle of Paradise. And whoever improves his own character, a home will be built for him in the highest part of Paradise.” [Tirmidhi]

Arguing with people is strongly discouraged in Islam. We are to state our point of view and then leave it at that. Nor are we to involve ourselves in matters that do not affect a person’s deen. Note that a person is to shun argument whether he is in the right or whether his stand is wrong. Both get houses built for them in Paradise. But since the person who knows that he is right finds it more difficult to leave the argument and let things be, he/she is promised a greater reward.

Arguing with people rarely gets anyone to change their minds. It usually only produces defensiveness and creates ill feelings between people. The issue becomes a matter of one’s ego and makes it more difficult for a person to change their stance. Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) loves to have Muslims live harmoniously with each other. Try this hadith out in practice, and you will see that your relations improve with people and that you have greater peace of mind.

Avoiding Arguements – An Islamic Perspective

Abu Dharr Al-Ghifari

Abu Dharr Al-Ghifari

In the Waddan valley which connects Makkah with the outside world, lived the tribe of Ghifar. The Ghifar existed on the meagre offerings of the trade caravans of the Quraysh which plied between Syria and Makkah. It is likely that they also lived by raiding these caravans when they were not given enough to satisfy their needs.
Jundub Ibn Junadah, nicknamed Abu Dharr, was a member of this tribe.
He was known for his courage, his calmness and his far sightedness and also for the repugnance he felt against the idols which his people worshipped. He rejected the silly religious beliefs and the religious corruption in which the Arabs were engaged.
While he was in the Waddan desert, news reached Abu Dharr that a new Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam) had appeared in Makkah. He really hoped that his appearance would help to change the hearts and minds of people and lead them away from the darkness of superstition. Without wasting much time, he called his brother, Anis, and said to him: “Go to Makkah and get whatever news you can of this man who claims that he is a Prophet and that revelation comes to him from the heavens. Listen to some of his sayings and come back and recite them to me.”
Anis went to Makkah and met the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam). He listened to what he had to say and returned to the Waddan desert. Abu Dharr met him and anxiously asked for news of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam).
“I have seen a man,” reported Anis, “who calls people to noble qualities and there is no mere poetry in what he says.”
“What do people say about him?” asked Abu Dharr.
“They say he is a magician, a soothsayer and a poet.”
“My curiosity is not satisfied. I am not finished with this matter. Will you look after my family while I go out and examine this prophet’s mission myself?”
“Yes. But beware of the Makkans.”
On his arrival at Makkah, Abu Dharr immediately felt very apprehensive and he decided to exercise great caution. The Quraysh were noticeably angry over the denunciation of their gods. Abu Dharr heard of the terrible violence they were meeting out to the followers of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam) but this was what he expected. He therefore refrained from asking anyone about Muhammad not knowing whether that person might be a follower or an enemy.
At nightfall, he lay down in the Sacred Mosque. Ali Ibn abi Talib passed by him and, realizing that he was a stranger, asked him to come to his house. Abu Dharr spent the night with him and in the morning took his water pouch and his bag containing provisions and returned to the Mosque. He had asked no questions and no questions were asked of him.
Abu Dharr spent the following day without getting to know the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam). At evening he went to the Mosque to sleep and Ali again passed by him and said: “Isn’t it time that a man knows his house?”
Abu Dharr accompanied him and stayed at his house a second night. Again no one asked the other about anything.
On the third night, however, Ali asked him, “Aren’t you going to tell me why you came to Makkah?”
“Only if you will give me an undertaking that you will guide me to what I seek.”
Ali agreed and Abu Dharr said: “I came to Makkah from a distant place seeking a meeting with the new Prophet and to listen to some of what he has to say.”
Ali’s face lit up with happiness as he said, “By God, he is really the Messenger of Allah,” and he went on telling Abu Dharr more about the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam) and his teaching. Finally, he said: “When we get up in the morning, follow me wherever I go. If I see anything which I am afraid of for your sake, I would stop as if to pass water. If I continue, follow me until you enter where I enter.”
Abu Dharr did not sleep a wink the rest of that night because of his intense longing to see the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam) and listen to the words of revelation. In the morning, he followed closely in Ali’s footsteps until they were in the presence of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam).
“As-salaamu alayka yaa Rasulullah, (Peace be on you, O Messenger of Allah),” greeted Abu Dharr.
“Wa alayka salaamullahi wa rahmatuhu wa barakaatuhu (And on you be the peace of Allah, His mercy and His blessings),” replied the Prophet.
Abu Dharr was thus the first person to greet the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam) with the greeting of Islam. After that, the greeting spread and came into general use.
The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam), welcomed Abu Dharr and invited him to Islam. He recited some of the Qur’aan for him. Before long, Abu Dharr pronounced the Shahadah, thus entering the new religion (without even leaving his place). He was among the first persons to accept Islam.
Let us leave Abu Dharr to continue his own story . . .
After that I stayed with the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam) in Makkah and he taught me Islam and taught me to read the Qur’aan. Then he said to me, “Don’t tell anyone in Makkah about your acceptance of Islam. I fear that they will kill you.”
“By Him in whose hands is my soul, I shall not leave Makkah until I go to the Sacred Mosque and proclaim the call of Truth in the midst of the Quraysh,” vowed Abu Dharr.
The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam) remained silent. I went to the Mosque. The Quraysh were sitting and talking. I went in their midst and called out at the top of my voice, “O people of Quraysh, I testify that there is no God but Allah and that Muhammad is the messenger of Allah.”
My words had an immediate effect on them. They jumped up and said, “Get this one who has left his religion.” They pounced on me and began to beat me mercilessly. They clearly meant to kill me. But Abbas Ibn Abdul Muttalib, the uncle of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam), recognised me. He bent over and protected me from them. He told them: “Woe to you! Would you kill a man from the Ghifar tribe and your caravans must pass through their territory?”
They then released me. I went back to the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam), and when he saw my condition, he said, “Didn’t I tell you not to announce your acceptance of Islam?”
“O Messenger of Allah,” I said, “It was a need I felt in my soul and I fulfilled it.”
“Go to your people,” he commanded, “and tell them what you have seen and heard. Invite them to Allah. Maybe Allah will bring them good through you and reward you through them. And when you hear that I have come out in the open, then come to me.”
I left and went back to my people. My brother came up to me and asked, “What have you done?” I told him that I had become a Muslim and that I believed in the truth of Muhammad’s teachings.
“I am not averse to your religion. In fact, I am also now a Muslim and a believer,” he said.
We both went to our mother then and invited her to Islam.
“I do not have any dislike for your religion. I accept Islam also,” she said.
From that day this family of believers went out tirelessly inviting the Ghifar to Allah and did not flinch from their purpose. Eventually a large number became Muslims and the congregational Prayer was instituted among them.
Abu Dharr remained in his desert abode until after the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam) had gone to Madinah and the battles of Badr, Uhud and Khandaq had been fought. At Madinah at last, he asked the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam) to be in his personal service. The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam) agreed and was pleased with his companionship and service. He sometimes showed preference to Abu Dharr above others and whenever he met him he would pat him and smile and show his happiness.
After the death of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam), Abu Dharr could not bear to stay in Madinah because of grief and the knowledge that there was to be no more of his guiding company. So he left for the Syrian desert and stayed there during the caliphate of Abu Bakr and Umar.
During the caliphate of Uthman, he stayed in Damascus and saw the Muslim’s concern for the world and their consuming desire for luxury. He was saddened and repelled by this. So Uthman asked him to come to Madinah. At Madinah he was also critical of the people’s pursuit of worldly goods and pleasures and they were critical in turn of his reviling them. Uthman therefore ordered that he should go to Rubdhah, a small village near Madinah. There he stayed far away from people, renouncing their preoccupation with worldly goods and holding on to the legacy of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam) and his companions in seeking the everlasting abode of the Hereafter in preference to this transitory world.
Once a man visited him and began looking at the contents of his house but found it quite bare. He asked Abu Dharr: “Where are your possessions?”
“We have a house yonder (meaning the Hereafter),” said Abu Dharr, “to which we send the best of our possessions.”
The man understood what he meant and said: “But you must have some possessions so long as you are in this abode.”
“The owner of this abode will not leave us in it,” replied Abu Dharr.
Abu Dharr persisted in his simple and frugal life to the end. Once the amir of Syria sent three hundred dinars to Abu Dharr to meet his needs. He returned the money saying, “Does not the amir of Syria find a servant more deserving of it than I?”
In the year 32 AH, the self-denying Abu Dharr passed away. The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassallam), had said of him: “The earth does not carry nor the heavens cover a man more true and faithful than Abu Dharr.”

Tawheed First

Tawheed First No Such Thing as True Thankfulness

From the moral and manners of the Salaf was that they would testify against themselves that they had not really thanked Allah. That is because they would see all their praise for Him as another of Allah’s favours upon them; the favours of Allah remaining and unending, impossible for anyone to catch up with.

Abu Bakr ibn Abdullah al-Muzani (rahimahullaah) said, “Never does a slave say alhamdulillaah (Praise be to Allah) without more thanks becoming required for him!”

Wahb ibn Munabbih (rahimahullaah) would say, “If your thanking Allah the Most High is a favour to you from the favours of Allah then in reality there is no such thing as true thankfulness. All your thanks mean that you have realized Allah’s abundant favours upon you, and that you cannot praise Allah enough for them.”

Sahl at-Tustari (rahimahullah) said, “Showing thankfulness to Allah is not to disobey Him with His favours. The whole body is from the favours of Allah and His gift, so do not disobey Him with any of it.”

Mujahib and Makhul (rahimahumallaah) used to say about the statement of Allah, “Then you will be asked that Day about the enjoyment” 1, “Indeed this is the cool drink, the shelter of a home, the satisfaction of one’s belly, the perfection of features, and the joy of sleep.”

If Sufyan ath-Thawri (rahimahullaah) passed by a policeman he would fall down in prostration to Allah the Most High saying, “Praise be to Allah who did not make me a policeman or a taxman.” Then he would say to his family, “Sometimes a person in trouble passes you by. He may be rewarded through his trial, but you ask your Lord to protect you (from it). But then some of those oppressors pass you by, sinning in their tribulation, but you do not ask for Allah’s protection!”

Al-Hasan Al-Basri (rahimahullaah) used to say about the statement of the Most High, “Verily mankind is ungrateful to His Lord” 2, “This means that he remembers the tragedies that befell him but forgets the blessings.”

Awn ibn Abdullah (rahimahullaah) used to say about the statement of Allah, “They recognize the blessings of Allah and then they deny them” 3, “This means they see that the favours are from Allah but then they attribute their origin to the people, ignoring Allah the Most High. They say if it was not for so-and-so then these favours would not have come to them.”


1. At-Takathur (102): 8

2. Al-’Adiyat (100): 6

3. An-Nahl (16): 83

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